International Women’s Day is on Sunday. It’s a day that celebrates the many talents and strengths of women. In celebration, we have rounded up some tips to raise an empowered girl. I know we’ve likely missed some points so let us know your experiences and opinions in the comments. Here is our list:

1. Encourage her to voice her opinion and speak for herself. From an early age, it’s important to give your daughter the opportunities to speak about her opinions and feelings. Listen and show her that her opinion is valued. Let your daughter debate hot topics with the adults and, leading by example, teach her how to be assertive in a respectful way.

2. Help her build positive relationships. Disagreements with friends are a normal part of friendships but there is a huge difference between disagreements and verbal abuse. Girls are often taught to be nice, apologize, and consider others first. But it’s important to be kind AND have a strong voice and boundaries. Teach her how to express and own her emotions using certain vocabulary like ‘When you said this it made me feel this way.”

3. Have conversations about body image. This conversation is imperative because society still puts a huge emphasis on how girls look. Instead of commenting on your daughter’s appearance, make one about how she uses her body as an instrument to conquer achievements. ‘Wow, you held that handstand for a long time. You’re so strong.” Also, show her the importance of taking care of her body and being healthy mentally and physically. Take her to a yoga class. Try meditation.
There’s also nothing wrong with make-up and dressing up! But if/when your daughter experiments with fashion, rather than saying ‘You look pretty” try “You are really talented with the eye shadow. You can braid hair really well.” It’s then an expression of their creative side rather than as a tool to enhance their looks. Be mindful of the conversations you have about your body image as well. As parents, make sure you model positive discussions about your body and do not place emphasis on your appearance being the most important thing.

4. Buy her toys that make her think. Embrace the brain teasers and board games, the medical and scientific experiments, things to build towers and locomotives. Give her the tools to explore, think, tinker as well as dress up. Her toys get her thinking and believing in all the possibilities the world has to offer her.
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5. Female role models.  Learn something new. Make a new friend. Be assertive. Foster positive relationships and a healthy body image. Be the empowered woman you want your daughter to strive to be. Or perhaps you or your partner have females in your families who your daughter could look up to as well. The more examples of strong female role models in her life the more likely she’ll believe in the reality of achieving her goals. 

As a teacher I can confirm that we do have ‘eyes on the back of our heads’ (we see everything our students are up to!) but unfortunately, we haven’t quite learned the talent of mind-reading. We don’t know everything going in our students’ lives, but these events directly contribute to their (lack of) performance inside the classroom.  Mental health and wellness have become crucial components of many yearly action plans in schools across Canada.  With the concerning number of students reporting stress, anxiety or other mental wellness issues, some school boards are taking action through the implementation of mindfulness programs.
Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention and being present in the moment. Mindfulness activities range from breathing exercises to listening to music. One school in Vancouver even offers tai chi to elementary students! In a nutshell, mindfulness is essentially giving students and teachers the opportunity to take a break and have some quiet time to reflect.
In 2013, the Toronto District School Board (TDSB) introduced meditation lessons to Grade 9 students at Dr Norman Bethune CI. Known as The Mindfulness Project, this workshop was led by classroom teachers and carried out in six workshops over two months.  The students at Bethune practiced breathing, body scans and other strategies to assist them cope with daily pressures.  The students’ response to the program at Bethune was extremely positive. The project’s organizers received a TDSB Award of Excellence 2014 and the workshop has since been extended to all Grade 9s in the school district. 
In January 2015, a mindfulness program co-developed by actress Goldie Hawn was tested as a control study with 99 Grade 4 and 5 students in Coquitlam, BC. Known as MindUp, the students were taught social, emotional and mindfulness skills with activities that included mindful tasting, listening to music and “brain breaks.” The results from the study were also extremely positive. The children exhibited less stress, more optimism and even showed improvements in their math abilities.  The MindUp program now partners with schools in Abbotsford, Coquitlam, Vancouver, West Vancouver and York using 15 lessons to help teach students how to be mindfully engaged.
Another mindfulness project at a school in San Francisco has seen some exceptional changes in their students. Visitacion Valley Middle School implemented meditation in 2007, with twelve minute ‘quiet times’ to start and end each day. Since then, the school’s truancy and suspension rates have decreased by more than half while the state of California’s rates have continued to climb.
With my own students, I’ve found that by allowing my students some time to get themselves into a positive and calm headspace ready to learn, they’re more engaged and happier.
Here are a few mindfulness activities, some that we use with our students, that you can use at home to introduce mindfulness to your child:

1. “Breathing Buddies” – It may be challenging for your young child to understand how to be mindful of their breath. This video explains a breathing activity a teacher uses called ‘Breathing Buddies’ to get her second grade students to understand. Each student uses a stuffed animal, lies down then rests the buddy on their chest. They focus on the stuffed animal rising and falling as they breathe in and out and count to 3. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=scqFHGI_nZE
2. Focus on the sound – Use a bell, a rain stick or even a phone app with playable sounds on it. Have your child sit/lay down and close their eyes. Tell him/her that you’re going to make a sound and you want him/her to focus on the sound until they can’t hear it anymore. I suggest making the sound for about 1 minute. Many of our teachers use this strategy to start and end their sessions.
3. Make a Mind Jar – Fill a jar (secured with a lid) with water and glitter. It will resemble a snow globe. Shake it up and have your child sit and breathe and watch the glitter madness in silence. The glitter and his/her mind will both settle. This is a great tool we use for our students who have anxiety before a test or presentation! It’s also great for younger children as a time-out tool.
4. Take a mindful walk together – Walk through your neighbourhood and have your child pay attention to the sensations. This could include the feeling of the ground beneath them, to the wind/breeze, the warmth of the sun or even the way their body feel while in motion. Then spend one minute together quietly listening to the sounds around you.

Whichever mindfulness activities you choose to introduce your child, just remember these tips:

1. Keep the mindfulness exercises short (less than 5 minutes). The short time frame is best for most children, although you may find some older children may be open to longer sessions.
2. Don’t push it! Your child may be uncomfortable with being quiet at first so gently encourage him/her and introduce different activities to help them become accustomed to the idea. Also, don’t forget to praise their efforts!
3. Practice what you preach! Children learn best by example so if you want to teach your child about mindfulness, you should make the effort to practice it yourself.

Most importantly, feel free to get creative and have fun exploring quiet time together!
Please note: Teachers to Go is now offering sessions in the comfort of your own home (in-person or online) with a teacher certified in mindfulness for children. They will design tailored lessons for your child to practice mindfulness and promote self-confidence.  For more information please contact us. 
Sources:
http://www.macleans.ca/society/health/bringing-mindfulness-to-the-school-curriculum/ http://www.macleans.ca/society/health/bringing-mindfulness-to-the-school-curriculum/
http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/goldie-hawn-s-mindfulness-program-makes-kids-better-at-math-says-ubc-1.2932715"http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/goldie-hawn-s-mindfulness-program-makes-kids-better-at-math-says-ubc-1.2932715
http://thehawnfoundation.org/mindup/ http://thehawnfoundation.org/mindup/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U9-phWL8t08&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U9-phWL8t08&feature=youtu.be